Many men enjoy trying anal sex , but far fewer are willing to stick objects up their behinds. What if we told you that men are biologically wired to enjoy anal even more than women?
This potentially shocking fact is due to the prostate , a small gland located in a man's pelvic region. Normally, the gland controls what comes out of a man's penis, closing off the tubes to the bladder when he ejaculates and vice versa. But stimulating this gland can also give a man incredible pleasure.
We have many other pages with information about the prostate if you want to know more. But this time we are focusing on prostate massagers, a toy specially designed to stimulate this gland.
What is a prostate massager?
A distant cousin of the butt plug , the prostate massager is a relatively simple toy. Most follow the same basic design and roughly resemble an L shape. The longer arm is inserted into your butt and has a slight curve to better reach the gland. The shorter arm sits outside the body, resting on the perineum and preventing the toy from being completely sucked into the butt.
The Anatomy of a Male Prostate Massager
Even though they are simple, it is always useful to understand what each part of a prostate massager does. In most models, the parts you will need to pay attention to are the tip, the shaft, the perineum stimulator, and the base.
The tip of the device is the part that comes into direct contact with your prostate. You can find a variety of designs to provide different levels of stimulation. Simple toys will have a slightly pointed tip, or a small ball or bead. Others will have ridged areas that touch the gland and intensify the sensations. Some even resemble the tip of the penis , giving you the sensation of real anal penetration.
The shaft is located at the bottom of the device and this part will have a big impact on how you feel when using your massager. For inexperienced users, a simple shaft will be best. These are usually the same width throughout, meaning that once the tip is inside, your butt will no longer need to spread. Other versions may include ridges or balls that stimulate your sphincters a little more when you insert the toy.
Below the shaft is the base, and this part of the device usually has the most variation. If you choose a vibrating model, this is where you'll be able to find the buttons to control the device (if it doesn't have a remote). Those that come with a bullet vibrator will have a hollow base, allowing you to insert the vibrator when you want to use it. Simpler models may have a pull ring to help you pull the toy out, while others just have a gentle curve.
Choosing the Right Prostate Toy
If you're interested in trying a prostate massager, there are a few simple decisions to make as you browse.
First, consider the material. You'll usually have the choice between metal or silicone, but you'll sometimes find some made of other materials. Metal massagers are usually made of stainless steel and are much firmer, allowing you to apply more pressure to the gland. Silicone massagers are softer and usually a little flexible, which can make it easier to find the right spot.
Another important thing to consider is length. While every man's prostate is in roughly the same place, every body is different and for some men, certain toys won't work as well. To solve this problem, you need to find the right prostate massager for your body. If your prostate is deeper, you'll need a longer massager. If your prostate is closer to the entrance of your butt, you'll need a shorter version. You can use your finger to try to roughly determine where your gland is, and then use that information to choose a toy that should be roughly the right length.
Finally, you'll want to think about the different parts of the massager that we talked about earlier. If you're less experienced, you might want to stick with a smoother, more cylindrical toy. If you want more stimulation, a ball stimulator or one with ridges on the base to stimulate the perineum will be a good choice. If you are looking for intense pleasure, you can try vibrations.
If you opt for a vibrating massager , it's usually much easier to use a remote control. It can be difficult to reach the bottom of the toy to turn it on, off, or change the intensity when it's inside your body, so a remote control makes things much easier.