This article has been scientifically verified by Human sexuality expert Dr. Laurie Mintz .
Today, we're talking about a rather delicate subject... that is to say, touching!
But why is touch so important? Because the more time, effort and expertise you put into touching her the way she likes, the more aroused she will be ! It's so easy to understand.
So, put your thinking cap on and get ready to learn all about her erogenous zones, that is, the spots that give her immense satisfaction and sexual stimulation.
Take notes, copy and paste it, print it out – heck, you can even stick it on your wall if you have to!
But first, a little context!
WHAT IS AN EROGENIC ZONE?
An erogenous zone is a spot on the body, male or female, that has increased sensitivity. And when one or more of these areas are touched, it can cause sexual sensations, from arousal to orgasm.
The thing about erogenous zones though, is that there are, of course, differences between people who have penises and people who have vaginas! But they also differ between women and men, so the most important thing to know about erogenous zones is that you need to ask your partner if it feels good to be touched there and how. Nonetheless, here are some common areas that most women find erotic to touch.
EROGENIC ZONES IN WOMEN
Now that you are aware, here is a very useful guide on its erogenous zones. Read carefully and you will be walking on the sun tomorrow!
1. THE CLITORIS
The clitoris is the most sensitive erogenous zone for most women. If it is a large organ, composed of internal and external parts, its external parts are the glans (analogous to the head of the male penis) and a hood that covers it (analogous to the male foreskin). The clitoral glans is often so sensitive that it is painful to touch. That's because it has about the same number of nerve endings as the head of the penis, but all grouped together in an organ about the size of an eraser on the tip of a pencil. This is why many women like to have their clitoris stimulated through the hood that covers it, or even through their panties. Some women like stimulation a little to the right of the clitoris and others to the left. This is why, when stimulating a woman's clitoris, it is really essential to "ask for directions" down there.
For those still exploring, you'll find the clitoris at the top of her vulva, where her inner lips meet at their upper ends.
How to stimulate the clitoris
So what do you do with it? Most women enjoy having their clitoris stimulated with fingers, a vibrator, or a tongue. A few gentle strokes of the tongue on and around that hot spot will have her heading to Orgasm City in no time.
A possible winning move? Try gentle licks with your tongue directly on her clitoris while rubbing circles around it with the tip of your thumb. While doing this, be sure to listen to her verbal and physical cues. Her body language can be a dead giveaway when it comes to hitting the right spot.
2. THE INNER LIPS
Did you know that the inner labia become engorged with blood just like a penis does during an erection? The inner labia are filled with erectile tissue that can double or even triple in size when a woman is aroused. Because the labia and clitoris are physically connected, many women find that stimulating their labia indirectly stimulates their clitoris, which may be a preferred means of stimulation since the clitoris itself is so sensitive.
How to stimulate the inner lips
Try gently stroking and pulling on your partner's inner lips to indirectly stimulate her clitoris. Since the labia are filled with erectile tissue, this can help them become engorged with blood (or increase general arousal).
3. THE G-SPOT
Perhaps the most controversial of her spots, the G-spot (which stands for and sounds catchier than the Grafenberg spot) is an elusive erogenous zone for some women and an orgasm hotspot for others.
While some debate whether it exists or not, we are very happy to take care of the research, that's where the fun lies.
You'll find the G-spot located 2 to 3 inches (5 to 7 centimeters) inside the vagina on the anterior - front - wall of the vaginal opening.
You will notice that this area is slightly different from the rest of the vagina; a little more bumpy.
How to stimulate the G-spot
There are a number of great sex positions for G-spot pleasure , but for the most effective G-spot massage, your best bet is with your own hands .
Place your index and middle fingers into her vagina with the tips in that special spot. With your fingers together or spread apart to make a peace sign, begin curling your fingers in a “come hither” motion.
If you don't feel like using your hands, you can opt for a G-spot massager . Both will do the trick in a sensual and seductive way.
Any advice? Cut your nails first!
4. THE VAGINAL OPENING
Although not as numerous as the clitoris, the vaginal opening contains many nerve endings that are receptive to touch, and there are even more inside the vagina.
How to stimulate vaginal opening
The next time you're thinking about penetrating your partner with your fingers, try teasing the opening of her vagina instead. You'll probably find her squirming and moaning for more. You can also use your penis as a tool to stimulate the vaginal opening without penetrating it.
5. THE MONS PUBIS
Oddly enough, the mons pubis is an unfamiliar name for many, but almost every human being is familiar with the area… It is the place directly above the vagina, where its pubic hair grows.
This area is full of fatty tissue and acts as a kind of padding to prevent bumps and knocks during sex* and other daily activities.
How to stimulate the Mons Pubis
When the mons pubis is stimulated, this sweet spot can really get a woman's engine running. This is mainly because it is full of sensitive nerve endings. Many women love it when you push, pull up, or make circular motions on their mons.
6. THE SCALP
Interestingly, both men and women's scalps are covered in nerve endings that make them very receptive to touch, even if it's not genital.
Not only that, but did you know that one of the main reasons why a woman doesn't have an orgasm is because she doesn't feel comfortable or relaxed ? A head massage is a great way to induce relaxation, making her more receptive to an orgasm.
How to stimulate the scalp
Scalp massages are easiest when her hair is dry, when you can lightly trace your nails over her skin, or during a shared bath when her hair is thoroughly wet and conditioner is applied for extra viscosity.
Then, gently circle her scalp with your finger or pull on her hair – whatever makes her feel the most relaxed.
7. LIPS
When we kiss someone, a multitude of neurotransmitters are released throughout the body that influence how we feel and think (imagine experiencing a chemistry-rich kiss and how it makes you feel).
And, while a delicious kiss is certainly the right way to reach peak arousal, even a kiss can fall into a routine if it's always the same.
Therefore, if you learn how to turn him on with your kiss, not only will you open the door to a lot of pleasure, but you will also make him feel weak in the knees.
How to stimulate the lips
Start by tracing a finger around the outside of her lips before you even start kissing her. Then, when you start with the smooches, vary the strength and intensity, alternating between light, deep, short, long - all kinds.
This way you create the element of surprise as well as a bit of teasing. Both will increase sexual arousal.
8. BEHIND THE KNEES
While for some women, touching herself behind the knees will be nothing but ticklish, for others, touching just on or behind her knees can actually send her spiraling into arousal. And what a delicious spiral it will be!
You see, the knees are full of nerves that are almost never stimulated, making them a novelty area. It is also very close to her thighs, which could then lead your fingers or mouth to her intimate spots. The whole thing is totally erotic.
How to stimulate the knees
Have your partner stand in front of you while you gently slide your fingers along the back of her knees. If this is too ticklish for her, you can try massaging them, varying the pressure from hard to gentle, deep to a tickle.
You can then ask him to lie on his stomach, so that the back of his knees are more exposed. Slowly run your tongue along the back of his knees and thighs.
After that, experiment with different sensations, such as gentle nibbling, tongue flicking, and caressing. You can even choose to use a vibrator on this sensitive point.
9. NIPPLES
For some women, the way to light up their brain is to go for the nipples! It sounds strange, of course, but when some women's nipples are touched, it sends the same signal to the brain as when her hot spot (the clitoris) and other areas of her genitals are touched. Some (rare) women are even able to have an orgasm through nipple stimulation alone. Interesting stuff!
How to stimulate nipples
You can start by making gentle, sliding circles around the nipples without touching them. This creates suspense and sexual anticipation. Then move on to the nipples with feathery touches. Move from nipples to breasts interchangeably, slowly and seductively.
From there you can start pinching the base of the nipple, but make sure she is comfortable with this.
And finally, you can combine pinching with a little nipple rolling using your thumb and index finger. Move from light pressure to hard pressure to create more suspense…
10. THE NECK
Interestingly, a study published in the scientific journal Cortex stated that more women were aroused by touching the back of their necks than their breasts or nipples.
And between laptop cases, purses, baby bags, and gym bags, a woman's neck is constantly put to the test. A sensual massage , some kisses, and nibbles will surely give her some time to relax.
How to stimulate the neck
Start with soft kisses on the side of the neck and use your fingers to slowly brush this exposed erogenous zone.
Then use your tongue and teeth to give her little licks and nibbles, trying different pressures and speeds to find the exact thing that makes her insatiable.
So you got it all figured out? We certainly hope so! By using these tips and tricks, you will quickly become a real pleasure pro!
And with that, we wish you lots of adventurous fun on all his erogenous zones. But remember, the most erogenous tip of all is to ask him what feels good while you're touching him and follow his signals!
*In this article, for the sake of reader understanding, we use the words sex and intercourse synonymously, as is done in popular culture generally. Similarly, we use the word “foreplay” as it is used in popular culture (i.e., sexual acts such as oral sex that precede intercourse). However, as our sex expert Laurie Mintz has rightly pointed out, we would also like to acknowledge that such language exalts men’s most reliable path to orgasm and linguistically erases women’s most reliable path to orgasm—clitoral stimulation, either alone or in combination with penetration. Indeed, only between 4% and 18% of women reliably orgasm from penetration alone. We look forward to the day when such language is no longer commonly used in culture.