Sounds intense, doesn't it? DOUBLE PENETRATION. Whatever happens, happens twice. Is this a ritual that one must prepare for? An act that only porn stars are flexible enough to survive? Or have I already exaggerated this idea?
In reality, double penetration (or “DP” for short) is more common than you might think. It’s not like asking for a double espresso, so don’t use that term with your barista, but plenty of people practice double penetration, even without knowing it’s what they’re doing.
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- What is double penetration (DP)?
- What does double penetration look like?
- The advantages of DP
- How to do double penetration
What is double penetration?
Part of the reason DP is such a common sex act is that there are so many different ways to play out double penetration. While the act is often thought of as referring only to the simultaneous penetration of the vagina and anus, any act in which one or more orifices (anus, vagina, mouth) are filled with any combination of fingers, fists, penises, tongues, or sex toys , including dildos , butt plugs , and ball gags counts!
It counts as DP if more than one hole is filled and it counts if a hole is filled with two or more things.
See what we mean by this general term? It’s not exclusively a team sport either. Double penetration can be performed by yourself with the help of the sex toys mentioned above and your own fingers.
What does double penetration look like ?
Everyone's experience is different, especially considering the many ways to explore double penetration. Common sensations include arousal, stretching, and fullness. Double penetration should never cause pain or discomfort, and if at any time you feel this, stop immediately .
Why would anyone want to experiment with double penetration?
It’s not just the feeling of fullness that can draw someone to the idea of double penetration. The famous DoubleMint gum commercial sang, “ Double your pleasure, double your pleasure ,” and that’s what’s happening here! If you’re stimulating more than one hole or erogenous zone, then of course you’re doubling your chances of pleasure. The experience of being filled in more than one way can create intense overall sensations. Talk about doubling your orgasm power!
When exploring the possibilities of DP, power dynamics and power play can also be a way to create excitement and pleasure. The feeling of being penetrated is fantastic, but the giving partner can also get a lot of pleasure from being in control of the act. Just make sure you are in constant communication with your partner so that everyone is having fun.
As I mentioned at the beginning of this article, DP has a multitude of connotations that come up when referring to it. Not only does it have an air of intensity, but it is also often seen as “kinky,” “dirty,” or reserved for people who enjoy outrageous sexual acts. Based on its true definition, we know that this is not true and that many people enjoy DP, but the idea of doing something that is not considered conventional or “appropriate” can create arousal. This can be an added benefit of DP.
How to Enjoy Double Penetration (Safely and Consensually)
Communicate and clarify – There are many ways to play, which means it’s especially important to get everyone on the same page. Questions to ask first include:
- Who's going to receive? Who's going to be double penetrated?
- In which hole(s)? With what? In what order?
- What positions would you like to explore?
- What methods of pregnancy prevention and protection against STIs will be used (if any)?
- Is there anything you are forbidden from doing? What doesn't suit you?
- What will our safe word be?
Buy for the occasion
Even if it's just gathering what you need on your nightstand and in your bathroom, get yourself some sex toys, lube , condoms , etc. You'll find suggestions for sex toys and DP essentials at the end of this article!
Take it easy
We recommend starting with one hole or penetrating object (penis, plug, dildo) at a time. Remember to keep communicating!
Explore the positions
Just as there are many ways to explore double penetration, there are also many positions that lend themselves perfectly to it! Different styles like 69 and doggy style are great to start with.
Don't skimp on postpartum care.
PD can be very intense for the recipient...be very careful afterward! Make sure to address physical and emotional needs after the event. Moisturizing, light massage, cuddling, and cleaning are all great options for postpartum physical care. Always ask your partner what they need/prefer. To stay emotionally connected, consider discussing what you each enjoyed and what you might change next time.
Don't skimp on the lube
To find the perfect lube for your DP play, check out our Lube Guide.